I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Daisy Hernandez, author of her acclaimed memoir, A Cup Of Water Under My Bed, on The Breaking Free Show. (You can find the entire show at the bottom of this blog.) Out of curiosity, I googled the definition for the word “daisy.” I came across the following words which so aptly describe Daisy Hernandez, a creative expresser of the human condition:
In his song, Imagine, John Lennon says, “And the world will be as one.” The point made is that when we understand each other and put our differences aside, rid ourselves of judgment and greed, we will live as one. What are the chances of that you may ask! Here’s a perfect step!
Let’s start with the steps we can take in just one afternoon! What difference can you make in just one afternoon? Just think about it for a moment. The possibilities are staggering and endless. Here is how powerful one afternoon is: a baby is born, a friend extends their hand, peace is made, an invention rocks the world and in just one afternoon life changes forever. It ONLY takes a small part of our lives to listen deeply to understand how someone feels, a moment in time to appreciate, to forgive someone, to smile or hug and to get to know someone intimately. In just one afternoon, we can stand up for ourselves, sharing who we are while at the same time making a difference in someone else’s life because we payed attention to them.
Through listening, I got/heard the idea to write a series of books that, to tell you the truth, I saw as brilliant. I am not taking credit for the brilliance or the idea. This series is called In Just One Afternoon. The magnificence of this idea blew me away. A series of books that would shine a spotlight on real and authentic life stories that would make a difference not only for the person sharing but also for those who read the words. As Marianne Williamson says, “As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” That would be the experience offered by these books. Many of these stories took extreme courage to share but the contributors knew that it was cathartic for them and would make a difference for the reader. Many of these stories are being shared for the first time.
So here is where it gets really interesting. Again through listening, I also received/heard/listened for the subheading which will distinguish the different subject matters that each book will focus on and the particular group of people we get the privilege to get to know. The first book, now available on amazon – In Just One Afternoon, Listening Into The Hearts Of Men – is a compilation of intimate stories shared by men about their emotional and creative life journeys.
These are beautiful, real, raw, and heart-throbbing stories. In these interviews, the men really open up and share special parts of their lives. Go to Amazon to get your copy now. (E-book or soft book is available)
On tap to come out in the spring is In Just One Afternoon, Listening Into The Hearts Of Twins. How much do you know of the depth of these relationships and the uncanny events that make twins unique? How can we use their relationships as models for our own lives? When you read the stories that I have heard, you too will get chills and sometimes even a chuckle.
The third book in the series (and there is no stopping this idea) is In Just One Afternoon Listening Into The Hearts Of Millennials. Again this book will share with you who millennials are really down to their core, their fears, their struggles, and their goals. The list of book subjects goes on and on from there.
Through a lens into these stories, we will see a beautiful picture inside the feelings, lifestyle, and essence of humanity.
The future book cover for the next book about twins!
If you ask most people, one of their top fears is having to speak in public. Actually most of us speak publicly every day. Maybe not in the traditional way we think of it – while standing at a podium, speaking to 100s of people – but at the coffee shop, grocery store and gas station! Yes, it all counts as public speaking!
Let’s look under the hood at the obvious – and not so obvious – reasons, thoughts, and benefits for speaking as often as possible in public, even at the gas station.
Here is a short list of why public speaking is an entrepreneur’s “highway to heaven” to reaching greater levels of professional and personal success and satisfaction.
- Consider this: Each time you share words with another person, you are speaking in public! In these moments, we all can have extraordinary opportunities to help, teach and share with each other. That happens in some of the most unlikely places. If you’re an entrepreneur and in business, these are key moments. The people you’re talking with could be your next lead, client, customer or friend.
- There are so so many people – such as coaches, writers, healers, bankers, insurance agents and financial advisers, etc. – who are doing similar things.
How do we all stand out in today’s marketplace?
It is challenging to be seen and heard. Historically, professionals such as doctors and lawyers did not have to work at promoting their businesses. They practiced their craft. Period. Now most professionals are out networking and speaking in public and attending events to showcase their thoughts, techniques, innovations and their attention to their human side.
- Our lives are changing every day with the onset of new technology and the opportunities we have to enhance our job productivity. Using technology is offering an untapped arena for using our public speaking skills. Speaking is paramount whether in a “tweet” on Twitter or in a video on Youtube. It is our voice and whenever we use our voice and words, we are speaking publicly.
- As an entrepreneur today, you must be skillful not only in your area of business expertise but also in how you market yourself and your businesses. We are the voice for what we do and who we are. Being unique and memorable takes a special touch. This is why speaking out about our business or niche with others is a vital point and something we must do often. The more often we do it, the easier it gets!
- Public speaking can help us share our mission, movement, belief, writing, teaching, a singular point of view or an innovation.
Every place we go as entrepreneurs is an opportunity to meet and talk with another person. Whether it is face-to-face or on-line, expressing what we do and who we are in the process can be key to getting to know a new colleague, creating a new alliance and opening up a new door.
Knowing how to be laser-like in expressing yourself can make all the difference in determining your success!
6. If for no one else, other than yourself, just being able to express yourself, learning more about you, can change your perspective. Public speaking offers that
option regardless of who else is impacted by what you say and who you are. You personally grow when you hear yourself!
7. We can’t be sure of how much of a difference we make when we share information with another person, but we can be guaranteed that at the very least, we
planted a seed. When we speak from our heart with all good intentions, something we say will be a seed for future growth. That you can take to the bank.
Come from your heart, share your truth, and always do your best.
As Maya Angelou once said:
“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Help people feel something, help them leave your presence with a feeling of connection, inspiration, and that they can make a difference.
I looked down at my watch and it was 6:41 AM. I promised to be there at 7AM, I was feeling weird. Am I going to make it? I stay on schedule all the time for the most part and I am anal with my time and methodical with how I plan it. I don’t like things falling through the cracks. I definitely don’t like being late.
Do you sometimes notice that time seems to stand still and it gives you back what you need when you really need some extra seconds, minutes and even hours?
I am sure that many of you have had similar situations in the busy, rich, full world you live and work in.
As I drove down the road hoping that time would stand still, something incredible happened. Imagine this: Not liking to be late at all, straight ahead a red light and a car in front of me. The red light was really just a car and a little space away. I’m thinking: “I am really going to be late!” As I approached the car in front, closing in the gap, visualizing being late, the car moved to the right lane which made room for me! I giggled. Then the light turned immediately green, clearing my way. It really was the shortest red light in history.
I more than giggled and found myself yet again being reminded that the car moving and the light turning green was a metaphor for the THE FREEDOM STEPS that take us inch-by-inch, step-by- step to our goals. Noticing these steps whenever and wherever they appear is a gift we give ourselves. Making good use of these steps is imperative in staying a course, not giving up and staying true to our choices.
Listening is key to seeing the steps for what they are and connecting all their dots. We see how we fit into the process. When we listen, we see the amusement.
Oh, by the way, I got to where I needed to go in more than enough time.
One day, while speaking to a friend on the phone, the phrases “waiting for the last straw“ and “the straw that broke the camel’s back“ came to me as my friend described what she was experiencing. I began thinking to myself, a big fat WHY. Why do we wait for the straw to break the camel’s back or the final straw before we take action? Is it necessary to wait till then or can we do something sooner?
What happens when we choose to wait for the straw and the camel?
In some cases we are giving our power away, our right to choose. Whether it’s to another person – or to the proverbial camel! – we still may not be reacting in our best interest.
The phrase above is hard to trace back but some findings are as early as the 17th century and some notations from the 1800’s. It’s 2016 and time to rethink it. Here’s why:
I believe that when we listen to the messages, clues, advice, facts, and our instinct we know much sooner that change is imminent. We also know the action we need to take before we reach the point where we get so fed up, so angry that it is hard to recover. Know thyself, trust thyself. My point is not to set a religious tone, but to emphasize this fact: When you know yourself, you know your answers.
Quite often, we resist sharing what we feel with each other. When we avoid saying what needs to be said, wait and drag things out, our relationships tend to get a whole lot messier! We leave jobs in a huff when we could have – once again – taken care of the issues that bothered us. We say things to our children that we later regret when all we really needed to do was speak up, speak up, speak up!
Here is my new revelation: Maybe it took the final straw to move us, to get us so disgusted that we did leave in a huff or finally end a relationship. What I am saying here is: Listen. Don’t wait if you don’t have to. If you do choose to wait for the straw, then do your best to look at whatever you are doing as going in the right direction. There are situations that we are in that do turn us upside down and inside out, but you are the best judge. The important thing is to give yourself credit for taking the action.
So remember: We place meaning on what we do, think, and feel. If the straw is final and you had to get to the last one, OK, so be it. It’s time for a new straw. If it breaks, that’s OK. Build again. As long as you are in your heart, are going about it with all you know and have in that moment, good for you. Remember listen and act when you can. New beginnings are within your reach.