Quotes bring us such clarity and are profound and can be quite funny. During this Breaking Free Show we came together and explored the play on words and how we each defined them for ourselves. Great fun.
The Breaking Free Show
December 8, 2014
As we transition from 2014-2015 what will you reflect on? What will you intentionally want to change and add in the new year? What will create freedom and independence for you? Watch our December 8th show for fun, fantasy, and freedom.
Ideas that we played with during the show
*Playfulness including the idea that playing means no judgment about what you are doing for play. Just doing it.
* Dismissing how others view us and living our most robust life
*Improvement and getting better
According to ‹madgew› from the chat: I try to live in the moment always. Whatever I want to do Debby. I have no restrictions. I love my life, I have enough money to do whatever comes to me. I am truly blessed and don’t have any real desire to change much at all with my life. I am one of the very lucky. I have worked hard to get to this place at age 66.
But after years of thinking, overthinking, anxiety and always answering questions and judging myself I finally am at a place where that for the most part is over. I really don’t give a shit what other people think anymore. I know who I am and if you don’t like it, defriend me.”
‹Suziani› from the chat says, “Madge- word for word… exactly my life and I would not trade it with anyone elses. I am 62 Madge and love that my days are my own to do whatever I want with… and I have a great day every day. My life is about want to(s) not have to(s).”
‹Judy› from the chat says, “I believe that also, I love myself and what I do and feel, I am 66 also, Madge, and will practice living more in the moment!!”
‹Chris› from the chat said, “I think people can – and often do – make their own cages symbolically speaking.”
‹Suziani› Friends get mad because I do not make plans- consequently, I really do not like to say yes to an invitation… lol.. because I have no idea what I will feel like doing… that far in advance… people get insulted… lol
‹madgew› I do commit to some people and I rarely if ever cancel on anything I have said yes to because it is something or someone I really want to see
‹Judy› I do have a difficult time with someone who does not feel able to give a commitment, I don’t really understand
‹Suziani› I can make a decision to accept an invitation for today or tomorrow… I guess I am more Spontaneous than scheduled.
‹Suziani› AH HA… I would never do that.. if that is the situation Debby- I would just say NO then.
‹Judy› I have a new situation that is coming up Jan and Feb of 2015; my husband and I will be traveling for 2 months which is great as long as I remember to relax and take things easy and embrace “doing” less and “being” more!
‹Suziani› no no.. not about having the right friends… just really do not like to commit to something that is not of my own design… lol
‹madgew› Judy. from time to time I go to a place for a month or two just to experience another city. Next year a month in Asheville just to see it.
‹Chris› Oh Madge…you will really like it. It’s such a terrific city with lots going on, interesting people past and present + the scenery is spectacular.
‹madgew› I am looking forward to it. I rented a loft in the center of the city.
‹Judy› Madge, We are also interested in Asheville, NC.
‹madgew› I have Marilyn in Cary and another friend in Raleigh and I plan to drive around to the mountains and to visit them plus some friends might come to visit from other cities.
‹madgew› Judy, where are you going? I also did Provincetown for 6 weeks two years ago to paint and write and be close to the ocean. Had a wonderful time and probably was one of the only non-gay women at women’s week and meeting some amazing people.
‹Suziani› When you live a life doing things that you enjoy… you also find enjoyment in the mundane everyday things… like doing dishes… lol
‹Judy› We are driving (BMW convertable-whee) North to South to Greensboro, NC. Atlanta, Mobile, New Orleans, across to Florida to Clearwater, down the Gulf coast, across to the Keys, to Key West, for a week, up and down the Keys, up to Orlando, to Savanah, then we have not set the next locations, but Asheville will be in there too
‹madgew› Sounds great. Who is we? I have been single for 25 years after being married for 20. Never wanted to be remarried or even live with a person again. Long term relationships but men who are still working so can’t get away for my adventures so far.
‹Judy› My husband and I have been able to continue the “us” of our marriage for 42 years!
‹Suziani› I am single for 17 years after being married for 20 >> never want to remarry or live with anyone.. maybe that is the reason we ARE so happy Madge… lol
‹madgew› Suziani, I agree but good for Judy. Lucky indeed. I was married at 19, divorced at 39. My loneliest day being single doesn’t come close to my loneliest day with a family.
‹madgew› I have two great sons (one living right down the street with my grandkid) and one son in Evanston with another grandchild.
‹madgew› grandkids, I have 4 and spend as much time with them as possible. easy with three on my block.
*How To Stay On time by Setting Your Clocks Ahead:
‹Chris› That is so FUNNY! We just did that at our house and it’s working great to helping us get to places on time.
‹Debby Bruck› Hope everyone is laughing.
‹madgew› Always early or right on time. A pet peeve of me that still is important.
‹Suziani› I am always ready early- I do not like to keep anyone waiting!
‹madgew› Laughing. Sign of disrespect. Also says your presence is more important than anyone.
‹Debby Bruck› This is something I am working on to be better. Now you know!
‹Judy› Madge, I am early or on time unless there are extenuating situation! I do agree that it is important and do not like to be kept waiting or to keep others waiting
‹Chris› Debby – It is really working for our family. I did it because I was so frustrated with how we were rushing out the door at the last minute. All of that anxiety wasn’t good for us and our bond with each other. We have all of our clocks set ahead 7 minutes.
‹Suziani› But if everyone KNOWS the clocks are ahead 7 minutes.. doesn’t everyone say… I still have seven minutes?
‹Debby Bruck› Madge – being prompt and punctual is a gift you have.
‹Debby Bruck› No. It tricks the brain every time.
‹Chris› Suziani – No, not all of us know. My youngest doesn’t yet. However, my son, husband and I do.
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And it’s a wrap! Thanks to everyone for tuning it today.